Operation: Happiness

20 May

Sometimes, when everything around you is falling apart, you just need to get the hell out of town. And that is exactly what I did. I found myself overweight, unhappy, and stuck in a city I hated. To top it off, I had just separated from my (now ex) fiancé. Every time I heard Bob Dylan’s “Not Dark Yet”, I shuddered at the possibility of these ominous words: “I was born here and I’ll die here, against my will.” Often, I wished to be somewhere else just so that, in case I died, it wouldn’t be in my hometown.

But, I digress. This rut I was stuck in was thicker than any mud and heavier than Atlas’s boulders. Left with my future plans changed virtually over night, I wasn’t sure what to do or where to go. Up to that point, I had been writing very minimally about travel- let alone anything else. While my mind constantly wandered to the now-forbidden destinations I frothed at the mouth for, I had no hope for real travel. I had committed to live in a place that brought me no joy, doomed to marry a penniless and possessive man-boy who ultimately made me miserable. As a former wanderer of the world, each day was the equivalent of spiritual suicide.

Time seamlessly and uneventfully droned on until one day, I was violently awoken to reality. My eyes suddenly widened, as if pried open with toothpicks, aware of the haze I had been living in. It dawned on me- true love doesn’t necessarily mean a futile devotion to another human being. Especially if that person makes you fall out of love with life itself. Perhaps true love is being committed to those things, people, ambitions and goals that make you feel alive. If you let your passions die, so will you. You may still breathe, walk and speak- but as a dull, sullen, ghostly fraction of your real self. And this is precisely what I had done- what I had allowed to happen.

We all live, but are we alive? Many of us have been understandably jaded by the harsh indifference of life’s tragedies. Unless you’ve lived in a bubble your whole life, are 16 years old, or are insanely delusional, chances are you know what I’m talking about. The moments of pure, crystalline, ecstatic vitality are rare. We must ask ourselves what it is- what passions, actions, thoughts- that makes us truly alive. For me, these moments come when reading beautifully raw words, ripping heartstrings I didn’t even know I had. Or, more intensely, when I am on the move, on the road.

My memory sets on an overnight train ride I took with two friends in 2006. We spent 23 hours from Shanghai to Guangzhou, China in a three-tiered pocket bunk bed set-up. We were in undoubtedly close quarters with Mandarin-speaking strangers, shaky Eastern squat toilets, and impending claustrophobia. I sat drinking ”REEB” (a brand cleverly named “backwards for beer”), chewing on chicken feet, laughing with the Chinese men aboard, though I understood nothing they said. Watching through the window, vast green mountain ranges, rice paddies filled with countless miniscule straw hats, and neglected, crumbling buildings passed by me at furious speed. I realized- more than ever before- I am happiest in motion. I am truly alive when in transit. When life becomes a verb, my mind clears, I breathe easier, and I am a better version of myself .

And so, my direction occurred to me about two months ago. I was sitting in a dim, near-empty suburban bar called “Tequila”, drinking vodka tonics served by Silver Dragon the Bartender. An old-time friend visiting from LA sat in the bar stool next to me, chatting. Mid conversation, I looked at her and just knew. I was tired of shitty bars, tired of suburbia’s complacency, tired of the person I had become. It was time to pursue happiness, and there was no other choice. I had to get the hell out of town.

And I am FREE!

And I am FREE!

Words

16 May

Words other people have used to describe me:

Hippy

Gypsy

Crazy

Lost

Free Spirit

Foolish

Wise

Lucky

Irrational

Dreamer

Brave

Perpetual Student

Ballsy

Global Citizen

Fearless

Compassionate

 

Words I use to describe myself:

Curious

Writer

Traveler

Lover

of

Truth

Experience

Life

 

 

The Medianeras of Argentina

21 Apr Medianeras, or Sidewalls
Medianeras, or Sidewalls

Medianeras, or Sidewalls

Watching the movie “Sidewalls” the other night, an Argentine film about loneliness, love, idiosyncracies, and architecture, I longed for the city. I miss those nights walking along the Coronel Diaz, peeping into the shoe stores, watching young lovers kiss, brushing by strangers wondering what their stories were. The little biscochos with my coffee, tiny cafes, bleak overwhelming greyness of concrete, kioskos, subtes, boliches, days started late and nights that bled into day. Argentine lingo on post-its stuck to the wall, Borges classes, dog walkers, feria de recoleta, even draw-string toilet flushes. Mullet haircuts, mate galore, hand gestures, words like “pelotudo”, hodgepodge buildings, sunny afternoons, uncomfortable bus rides, and destornilladores. The little things are what make you fall in love with a city. Even when everyone else is in a rush to get somewhere or see something else, you notice these little things, and later come to miss them.

My humble drawing of the view from my apartment in Buenos Aires

My humble drawing of the view from my apartment in Buenos Aires

The Dutch Tulip Fields (Guest Post)

16 Apr Red tulips and a couple of yellow flowers mixed in
Many thanks to Bell of Wanderlust Marriage for being my first guest blogger! Here is an informative (almost fragrant!) post she wrote about the tulip fields in Netherlands. I have never visited Europe, and this gives me even more inspiration to do so!
 

“The Dutch Tulip Fields”

The Dutch tulip fields are one of the things that Alex and I miss most about living in Amsterdam, and if you happen to be visiting the Netherlands in April, it is the perfect time to catch a glimpse of this beautiful sight.

It was our first spring in Amsterdam and we had heard about these “tulip fields” and how amazing they are. So Alex and I did a bit of research and decided that the town of Hillegom was a great place to catch the train to and wander around to see the tulips.

Tulip fields, from the train station in Hillegom

Tulip fields, from the train station in Hillegom

We had already gotten into the picnicking scene in the Netherlands, so we packed some sandwiches, treats and our blanket and jumped on the train. The trip takes between 35 and 45 minutes and you change trains in the lovely town of Haarlem.

View for our picnic

View for our picnic

As you begin to approach Hillegom you will see the fields from the train, spectacular rows of red, yellow, bright pink and many other coloured tulips. It is simply amazing to see these straight rows of thousands of the same color tulips. As an aside, if you fly into the Netherlands at this time of the year you can often see the gorgeous colorful patchwork of tulips from the plane.

The tulip fields and canal

The tulip fields and canal

After arriving, I was really excited, I mean I knew it would be beautiful, but I didn’t realise just how stunning it would be. I just wanted to go and run among all the flowers! But self-restraint prevailed and Alex and I headed towards the fields.

Wandering around the tulip fields

Wandering around the tulip fields

We picked a lovely spot to eat our lunch and enjoyed being surrounded by beauty. We then wandered around the fields for the next few hours taking pictures and enjoying all the color. It was lovely to see all red tulips in one row and a couple lonely yellow tulips nested in there as well.

Red tulips and a couple of yellow flowers mixed in

Red tulips and a couple of yellow flowers mixed in

We have friends who went into the fields and lied in the tulips. That’s very tempting and you will get an awesome picture… but if you do this, it will be considered trespassing. Obviously, the farmers get very annoyed with tourists getting in their fields, so you wouldn’t want to get caught, and anyway why ruin the flowers just so you can get your picture. Ok rant over!

After we were done walking around the fields we went into the village of Hillegom for a coffee and ice cream. There isn’t a whole lot to see in the town, but there are shops, and a few cafes and pubs. If you are there on a sunny day, enjoy a terrace and sip on a beer or if the weather is less than lovely, grab a coffee and slice of warm apple pie somewhere gezellig (cosy)!

On our way home on this particular trip to tulip fields Alex and I stopped in Haarlem, just to see what was there. Haarlem looks a lot like Amsterdam, but is smaller and has less canals, but the architecture is similar. If you’re in Amsterdam for just a few days, this is a great day trip to get out of the city and see a little more of what the Netherlands has to offer.

Train ride back to Amsterdam

Train ride back to Amsterdam

This wasn’t the last time Alex and I visited the fields, we went every year and enjoyed the colorful sight that neither of us would get to experience in our own home countries. I also had the pleasure of visiting the official tulip gardens, the Keukenhof Tulip Garden, where the tulips are beautifully arranged and many strange varieties are on display. If you’re in the Netherlands in Spring, we highly recommend enjoying these beautiful flowers!

-Bell is one half of Wanderlust Marriage where she and Alex write about their travel experiences and provide offbeat advice on traveling. 
 
To plan your own train trip in the Netherlands to visit the tulip fields near the village of Hillegom, 9292, Your Travel Partner will help you find the train times and list prices for you.

Liebster Blogging Award

27 Feb liebster award

liebster award

Recently, Alex and Bellinda from Wanderlust Marriage nominated me for the Liebster Blogging Award. What an honor! These two  have combined their love for solo travel together and are now living life as an amazing nomadic couple. I’m really looking forward to answering their questions and highlighting others’ travel blogs. People all over the world are really writing about some envy-worthy sights!

The Liebster Blogging Award is a “pay-it-forward” blogging award. New bloggers nominate other new bloggers to share a bit more about themselves and ask each other questions. The current rules are as follows:

The Liebster Blogging Award Rules:

  1. Share 11 random facts about yourself.
  2. Answer the questions from the person who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 11 bloggers with less than 200 followers and ask them 11 questions

Now, onto the good stuff!

11 Random Facts about Me:

1. Before becoming obsessed with Latin America, I wanted to move to France. But then, as luck would have it, my French teacher in high school was pretty bitchy. This forced me to learn Spanish, and my life unfolded much differently than I had planned.

2. I really love Woody Allen. He is completely neurotic, overly intellectual, and it seems like he suffers a lot from his own thoughts. But the art he produces is quite magical- at least to someone with my kind of humor!

3. Not traveling will make me do crazy things, like start collecting Tokidoki toys, which later gather dust on the dresser, and then realize I shouldn’t have wasted my money in the first place.

4. I am a vegetarian trying to go vegan. However, the majority of time I have traveled, I’ve been a wimp and started to eat poultry here and there to avoid stomach aches from too much unpasteurized milk. (Yuck.) Weird things I have eaten on the road: chicken feet, frog legs, and crickets.

5. Weird people, and weird things, make me happy. Maybe that’s why San Francisco- the place where the unaccepted are accepted- is my favorite city in the world. This fetish for the weird inclines me to watch shows like “My Strange Addiction” “1000 Ways to Die” and “Fatal Attraction”.

6. If I weren’t human, I’d like to be a chimpanzee- either a regular one or a bonobo. (Should this go in the section above?  Wink, wink.)

7. I really, really, really wish that I would have lived (as a teenager or young adult) in the sixties. Read Tom Wolfe’s The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test and tell me you don’t agree. Ok, maybe you won’t. But this mind-expanding, love-giving movement and lifestyle fascinates me.

8. While my looks may tell you otherwise, I am half-Mexican and consider myself a latina. I don’t relate much to what society considers “white” culture, whatever that means.

9. I have a huge, unwavering crush on Anthony Bourdain (even though he hates vegetarians). It’s not his looks so much as how knowledgeable he is. The man knows what he wants and travels around the globe to get it. How is that not hot?

10. It wasn’t until I was 19 years old that I stepped onto an airplane (and took a flight). This was from my hometown, San Jose, CA, to Phoenix, Arizona. I was terrified and exhilarated. I couldn’t tell you now exactly how many flights I’ve taken!

11. I wrote my Master’s thesis on La Violencia in Colombia (1948-1957), analyzing the extreme types of violence and how this trauma impacted Colombian artists. The gruesome details of genocide at times made me physically ill, but the research made my knowledge and compassion expand in ways I couldn’t have imagined.

11 Questions from Alex & Bellinda:

1. What is your favourite type of food?

It’s always been Mexican food, especially if the recipe can be tweaked into being vegetarian. Indian food has lately been creeping into a close second place!

2. Where would you like to be living when you’re 70?

When I’m 70, I picture myself living in a small home by the beach with a great view of the crystal blue water. My largest room would be the library. Though I haven’t yet been to Spain, I think my elderly dream home would be there. I would be able to walk to the market, crossing the cobblestone streets with a grandchild or two by my side.

3. Preferred method of travel: Train, plane or automobile?

If I have the means, I will definitely choose a plane over anything else. It’s so much quicker and convenient. However, as a budget traveler, this is usually not the case, so I’ll have to choose the automobile. I’ve been on way too many stuffy, cramped overnight buses- with or without toilets. I prefer to be able to stop when I need to.

4. Favourite travel song?

Soundgarden’s ”Burden in My Hand”. I don’t think it’s supposed to be a “travel” song, but it is to me. When you travel, you leave behind everything that is safe and rational. You follow your passion blindly into the unknown, and sometimes you go a little crazy in the process. You connect with something that’s bigger than any human being- nature in all of its raw forms.

5. Where is your favourite beach?

Aqua water and white sand may be gorgeous, but if I can’t swim in the water, a beach is useless to me. With that in mind, my favorite is Mancora, Peru. I spent two weeks there in my swim suit, reading on the sand getting the best tan (because of its position on the equator), drinking fresh coconut water and swimming countless hours in the ocean. This little surfer town also had some pretty fun parties.

6. Why did you start your blog?

My dream career is to be a (paid) travel writer. I kept talking to people about this dream a couple of years back, and quite a few people suggested I start a blog to get my stories out into the world. Since I had previously gotten good feedback from my emails about travel, I figured this would be a good first step. Creating this blog has been quite a positive experience.

7. If you could have dinner with one person who would it be?

Dead or alive? If deceased, I would like to sit down with my late maternal grandmother as an adult and ask her how she managed to stay happy as a housewife, raising nine kids. And she didn’t even know how to drive (in case she needed to escape for a bit).

If alive, I would like to have dinner with Paulo Coelho, the Brazilian author of The Alchemist and many other books. Not only do I think he’d pick out a delicious meal, but I’d like to pick his brain in terms of travel, love, spirituality, self-acceptance, and love.

8. Favourite beer, or if you don’t drink beer, favourite drink?

My favorite everyday beer is Stella Artois. If it’s a special occasion, I like the super dark, almost coffee-like beers, such as Delirium or Old Rasputin. These can be dangerous for sure, but super yummy.

9. Share with us a funny/unique travel photo!

Jigokudani monkey parkHere I am about to enter the Jigokudani Monkey Park in Japan, pretending to be a monkey. It shows my extremely pretentious attitude. ;-P (The Japanese macaques, or snow monkeys, are absolutely wonderful!)

10. What kind of camera do you use to take most of your photos?

I’ve stuck with the Olympus brand since I started traveling. I’m not sure what the first model was, but I currently have the FE-230. It’s really small, and with 7.1 megapixels, it takes excellent pictures. With the right cover, you can even take it underwater. When I’m not traveling, I just use my iPhone.

11. Most romantic place visited?

That’s a tough one. My lens of perception isn’t quite geared toward “romantic”, especially since I have very seldom traveled with a significant other. If I had to choose a place I’d like to revisit for romantic reasons, I’d have to say Bocas del Toro, Panama. The island is a small, friendly place with quite a few good restaurants. The water is gorgeous and there are super cute bungalows strewn about as you arrive. For daily excursions, you can take boat rides to see dolphins and lush greenery, spotted with Howler monkeys. It’s really a beautiful place- my favorite in all of Panama.

Now, time to pay it forward!

I nominate the following 11 bloggers for the Liebster Blogging Award:

1. Nika from Nika Likes Maps

2. Anne from Pretraveller

3. Amanda from Farsickness

4. Unnamed from Lions and Cows

5. Marina and Kevin from Hercules Gets a Passport

6. Krista from Bited-Sized Travel

7. Thomas from 2nd Cup of Tea

8. Diarmuid and Damien from Tales from Far and Away

9. Amanda from A Dangerous Business

10. Primie from Conscious Traveller

11. Alexandra from Fluent in Frolicking

My 11 Questions for the Nominated Bloggers:

1. Do you think that traveling is a phase in your life, or will you travel forever?

2. Luggage- what kind of luggage do you bring when you travel, and why? (I.e. suitcases vs. backpacks)

3. Do you try to learn a country’s language before traveling there and why/why not?

4. Who is your main inspiration in life?

5. Why is writing about your travel experiences important to you?

6. What is the one belonging that you cannot do without while on the road?

7. What is more important: traveling the world or getting a “proper” education?

8. What is your favorite travel book?

9. Have you tried solo travel, and would you recommend it to others?

10. Do you think that people can maintain a life of travel and a serious relationship?

11. I’d like to see your favorite animal picture (that you took). Share it!

I look forward to reading all of your answers. This has been fun! Thank you, again, Alex & Bellinda, for the nomination. They can be found at Wanderlust Marriage, or you can tweet them here. Cheers!

2012 in review

30 Dec

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 2,000 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 3 years to get that many views.

Click here to see the complete report.

Salar de Uyuni: A Journey in Photographs

10 Dec Laguna Chiarkota- See the Flamingos?

There are some countries you travel to and love, others that you don’t really care for and want to leave right away.  But none are really boring or forgettable, at least to me.  One of my least favorite countries to date has been Bolivia.  It’s the third poorest country in Latin America where most roads are unpaved, people can be quite unfriendly, shrunken llama heads are sold at the market (ok, that was still kind of cool) and the meals I ate there all blend together into one menu del dia (fixed-price meal of the day) comprised of rice, potatoes and chicken.  I never really wanted to visit the country, but it was in between Northern Argentina and Peru on my backpacking trip throughout South America by bus.  Nonetheless, even though I’ve concluded that it’s not on my To Revisit list, I still recommend it to people.  Why?  The Salar de Uyuni, or Uyuni Salt Flats.  Simple as that.  Instead of explaining in detail, I’ll show you just what this out-of-this-world location has to offer.

Bolivian Kids in the town of Uyuni

Bolivian Kids in the town of Uyuni

The Vast Salar de Uyuni

Salt Hotel- Tasty!

Salt Hotel- Tasty!

Fish Island- Full of Cacti

Fish Island- Full of Cacti

Chullpas Cemetery - located in a nearby cave

San Juan Rosario- A lady and her llamas

San Juan Rosario- A Bolivian Lady and her Llamas

San Juan Rosario- Llamas Around a Pond

San Juan Rosario- Llamas Around a Pond

Just Past the Vulcan de Ollague

Rock Formations

Rock Formations

Laguna Chiarkota- See the Flamingos?

Laguna Chiarkota- See the Flamingos?

Chiarkota Flamingos- A Closer View

Chiarkota Flamingos- A Closer View

The Bolivian Viscocha- Cross between a Rabbit and a Rat?

The Bolivian Viscocha- Cross between a Rabbit and a Rat?

Arbol de Piedra- Rock Tree

Arbol de Piedra- Rock Tree

Geysers at Sunset

Geysers at Sunrise

Did we land on Mars?

Did we land on Mars?

Laguna Verde- Green Lagoon

Laguna Verde- Green Lagoon

Laguna Verde- All of us backpackers at the Green Lagoon

Laguna Verde- All of us backpackers at the Green Lagoon

The Train Cemetery- Appropriate for the end of the tour

The Train Cemetery- Appropriate for the end of the tour

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